Posts by dazed but not confused

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My first cigar

by LivingTheDream in

my first cigar.

not soon after i faded, i was on a company shindig and they were providing hand rolled cigars to everybody there.

i watched in amazement as this dominican guy rolled them in front of my eyes with great care and skill.

dazed but not confused

I am wondering, how long after you left or faded from the religion did you give them a try? Did it seem strange at first to even be holding one? Who or what put you up to it?

For me it was about a year and a half before I smoked my first. I often pass a nice cigar shop and one day while driving with my wife, I pull in and hop out. Mrs. Dazed asked what I was doing. She rolled her eyes and said “Not in the house.”

I figured “What the hell? Why not try one?” It didn’t seem weird or unnatural for me at all.

I’m still kicking myself to this day. My brother gave me a genuine Cuban on the day of his wedding. I held onto it for a couple weeks but was pressured into throwing it out. This was about 4 years before my fade.

What a ...

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My first cigar

by LivingTheDream in

my first cigar.

not soon after i faded, i was on a company shindig and they were providing hand rolled cigars to everybody there.

i watched in amazement as this dominican guy rolled them in front of my eyes with great care and skill.

dazed but not confused

Cigars are great. I started smoking them earlier this year. Mrs. Dazed got me a humidor and cigars for our 10 th anniversary. I usually smoke one on the weekends.

I agree with ADD. Don’t waste your money on the cheap ones.

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Me & Buddy @ Bethel

by bytheirworks in

typical conversation between me and my best bud @ bethel.. http://www.youtube.com/embed/6tzar4wrp40.

what do you think?

analysis?

dazed but not confused

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Was Your Leaving The Witnesses A Very Gradual Process Or A Quick One?

by minimus in

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for me, it took many years.. even when i would read all the changes over the years from the "truth", i still would ignore it and "wait on jehovah" and try to be a positive force in the congregation.. eventually, i just couldn't take it anymore and resigned as an elder, and slowly but surely made my fade.. what about you?

were you out, in a short or longer time?

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dazed but not confused

The day we were going to start telling people Mrs. Dazed was pregnant with our 2 nd kid, she was sick with morning sickness and I went to the meeting with my son. It was a Sunday. I talked to 2 people briefly and at the half I got up and left. I never returned to another meeting. I left not thinking it would be my last meeting. About 2 weeks later after missing meetings Mrs. Dazed asked if I was going to meeting. I told her I couldn’t do it anymore.

That was September 2011. For a few months leading up to that day I was not happy. I was publicly reproved earlier in the year for drunkenness. Many in the congregation knew why I was PR’d. No one cared. No one showed support. All the elders knew I had been struggling with alcohol for many years. A few in the hall also knew. After receiving no love or support, I started questioning how this religion could be the “truth.” I questioned how Jehovah could be blessing this org. Then I slowly started learning TTATT. From December 2010 to September 2011, I slowed down and eventually stopped turning in time. Meeting attendance slowed to maybe 5 meetings a month.

January of this year Mrs. Dazed stopped all together. She took a year and a half to tell me, just in case it was a faze I was going through, that she never really believed it was the truth. She told me the whole reason she got baptized in the first place was to date me. She stuck around for so long because of me and her mom being JWs. She was told me “I was ready to leave the “truth” a year after we got married” in 2004. She has always seen and hated the hypocrisy of the cult.

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A little Update... Going back to school.

by dazed but not confused in

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im going back to school tomorrow.

dazed but not confused

Thank you all for your well wishes.

Tonight was my first class, English. I’m reading over the assigned reading and what do you know? It’s about critical reading. Some of the bullet points are – Are the facts really facts? – Are the opinions adequately supported? – Is the material current? – Are the sources and author trustworthy? – Is the reasoning logical?

All I could think about as I was reading was “Huh. It’s no wonder the WTBTS strongly discourages higher education.” If all, or hell, even a quarter of JW’s critically read the literature produced, there would surly be fewer JW’s. I can’t count how many times the WT has misquoted someone’s writing.

JakeM2012 - Keep your grades up on your prerequisites it counts when trying to get into nursing school. Here in Colorado this is the first year that the nursing program is “competitive” based. I have to maintain a 3.8 GPA or better to possibly be considered for the nursing program once the prerequisites are done. It used to be you were put on a waiting list, which got to be a 3 year wait. Now, no more waiting lists. Those who performed the best will have first crack at nursing school. I will be able to apply at multiple nursing schools when the time comes, but my best chance at getting in will be through one of the 3 CC I am attending. I have a long road a head. I’m excited.

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Our theme song...

by snare&racket in

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volume on 11 people..... enjoy another day of unbridled free thought and freedom from theocratic opression :) .

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1qazpqllc9w&desktop_uri=%2fwatch%3fv%3d1qazpqllc9w.

dazed but not confused

http://youtu.be/1qAZpQllC9w

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1qAZpQllC9w&feature=youtu.be

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A little Update... Going back to school.

by dazed but not confused in

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im going back to school tomorrow.

dazed but not confused

Great plan!! You can do it. Sets a good example for your children too. Yes, we are breaking the cycle of stupidity in this religion. Mrs. Dazed and I have talked about focusing a lot on their education. We are looking into private schools when the little ones are ready to start. Next year our son will be starting school. I think family and education are the 2 most important things in life.

The JW's are in for the short game Sadly so true. We are really lucky getting out as young as we did. So many here spent far more than 27 years wasting time in the cult.

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A little Update... Going back to school.

by dazed but not confused in

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im going back to school tomorrow.

dazed but not confused

I’m going back to school tomorrow. I’m in an industry that is slowly dieing. Each year the asbestos abatement field slows a little. This is my 10 th year in the industry. I need work that is consistent, recession proof and less hazardous. I will be going part time. I’m going to try getting into nursing. The medical field is obviously always going to be busy. I love helping people and think it will be a good fit. Going part time, it may take me 3 to 4 years to fulfill the prerequisites, then 1 year full time in the nursing program. I am excited, nervous and anxious. With 2 kids and a wife who works full time, it will be tough. I will be working fulltime and taking classes in the evening.

I never even considered college while IN. In July I turned 30. I have 35+ years until retirement. Now my focus is on making money so I can provide a better life for my wife and kids. It is no longer “waiting on Jehovah” and the silly idea of a paradise earth.

My wife was promoted to assistant manager and will be starting her new position on Tuesday. She’s really excited; more money, salary and bonuses. We’re really looking forward to the following year.

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How did you spend your Saturdays?

by MissConfused in

it's been 3 weeks and every weekend is so much fun, spending quality time with real friends who dont pretend... last week was bbq, this sat was potluck, next one is long weekend away from home... all in all love my life again.... how was your saturday?

:).

dazed but not confused

Birthday BBQ with neighbors who are rapidly becoming close friends. Since Mrs. Dazed stopped all things JW around February, we have been filling our weekends with a lot of fun activities including many birthday BBQ’s and neighbor get-togethers.

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NASA Finds Message From God on Mars

by His Excellency in

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http://dailycurrant.com/2013/07/01/nasa-finds-message-from-god-on-mars/.

dazed but not confused

It's a satire site people.

I've never heard of this site. Half way through the article I thought the same thing and scrolled down to the comments...lol